Not all relationships fracture loudly—some erode in silence, in compromise, in what goes unspoken. These posts explore the darker side of connection, where desire, betrayal, distance, and control reshape intimacy, and what binds people together can just as easily pull them apart.
We praise the truth like it is always brave.We tell kids to “just be honest.”We tell adults to “tell it how it is.”We treat blunt truth like a badge of pride. But the truth can fail. Not all truth is kind.Not all truth helps.Some truths land like a fist and then walk away, proud of
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I never thought I’d be haunted by the one that got away, but here I am—many years later—still asking what if. We loved deeply, and we let it go. Not because the love was weak, but because we were young and thought it wouldn’t work. That is how many great loves end. Not with fire
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I hear the word misandry more now than I did years ago. Some say it means hatred of men. They say it is new, and strong, and on the rise. I have heard the claim. I just don’t know if I believe it. When I look at the world, it does not seem shaped by
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Guilt is supposed to arrive when it’s meant to. That’s the story, anyway. You do something wrong — or something questionable — and guilt supposedly follows like a shadow. It nags. It disrupts sleep. It insists on being felt. When it doesn’t turn up, the absence feels like another offence. A deeper one. Something harder
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I’ve lived my life enjoying the sea breeze and watching the horizon change with the light, but I still don’t go into the water unless it’s absolutely necessary. The ocean is the shark’s world — not mine — and every year, reminders come that we humans are just visitors in their domain. The Aussie coastline
Living on the Coast, Staying Out of the Sea, Away From the Sharks Read More »
Judge. Jury. Executioner. The ‘bird’ provides us with the perfect urban Law. It gives us the power to be everything (and feels so virtuous). Delivering justice to sh*tty people without having to consult with anyone else. It feels so nice. Almost virtuos! Think about it. When a flip happens, we’ve already decided that a crime
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There’s a detail that’s easy to avoid when talking about sexless marriages, and it’s the one that matters most. They don’t always begin with a simple refusal. They often begin with silence. I didn’t want a sexless marriage. That part is simple, and it matters that I say it plainly. But wanting something and enabling
Silent Consent: Sexless Marriages Don’t Begin — They Settle Read More »
Counsellors carry a special burden. Day in and day out, they sit with stories of violence, rape, child abuse, and trauma. They hear it all. It’s their job to listen — to absorb the darkest corners of human experience — and retain a professional smile all the while. But how does a sane person stay
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I never knew it was possible to feel this empty and still be breathing. The one thing that mattered is gone. People keep calling it a breakup, like it’s some normal thing you just walk away from and learn from, but that’s bullshit. I hate them! She wasn’t just a girlfriend. She was my person.
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I used to think dishonesty lived in the mind. That lies were conscious decisions, chosen and spoken. Something you did with words. The body taught me otherwise. The body reacts long before the mind drafts its excuses. It tightens when it shouldn’t. Nausea arrives without invitation. Sleep fractures. Desire evaporates or appears at the wrong
The Body as Evidence: When Flesh Betrays the Lie Read More »