Sexless Marriage or Involuntarily Celibate?

The INCEL movement claimed the involuntary celibate tag long before those stuck in sexless marriages did. That’s unfortunate because it suits people like me better than it does them.

Ask the married ones what it’s like to be forced into a life of celibacy after having sexual relationships with their spouses. They are disappointed, hurt and angry that the arrangement changed without their consent. Every. Single. Day. The words involuntary celibate apply much better here than to a bunch of frustrated, disenfranchised single men who are pissed for not being able to get a girl to touch their pee-pee, much less get one to a bed.

Many married women and men are more pissed at being made to be celibate in what’s supposed to be a lifelong romantic AND sexual relationship. The one person who agreed to provide sex for a monogamous marriage doesn’t want to do that anymore. That’s something to be really pissed about!

So single guys can take one large step to the back of the line, please!

Gentlemen, graduate to having a relationship first. Then, spend time in a marriage that turns sexless and lasts like that for years at a time. Come back and tell us about what true INCEL feels like. I can guarantee you that they are not the same. In the meantime, stay out of the way. The grown-ups have bigger issues at hand. Go pay a hooker to blow you. You’ll feel better right away.

INCEL is the right term for us, but the knuckleheads jumped the gun and nabbed it — and then some have used real guns to express their sexual frustration. People have been shot dead because of the INCEL’S anger.

Let’s not talk about that level of irrationality.

Let’s speak in a civilised voice instead. For instance, let’s turn our efforts to design a new name for what we suffer from to better describe our sexless marriage situations.

What about:

Bait-and-switch relationship?

Forced celibacy?

Celibate not by choice?

Platonic marriage?

Why not write to me with your suggestions by leaving them in the comments section below? If they’re good enough, I’ll use them on my show, The Dirty Rabbit Hole Podcast. Don’t hold back. Make it funny or deadly serious. Playing with words about a sexless marriage has got to be better than thinking about this awkward, torturous situation all the time.

Fortunately, those stuck in sexless marriages won’t take to the streets and blow innocent people away with guns to make a point. They’ll probably cry silently into their pillows at night instead.

–Michael (Author/Podcaster)

P.S. Elliot Rodger is and always will be a dick.

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