Marriage is built on commitment, but shaped over time by expectation, routine, and change. These posts explore the realities beneath the surface—where intimacy, communication, and pressure redefine connection, and where what holds a relationship together can also be what tests it most.
No one expects the monster to look like him. He is quiet. Consistent. Polite in the way people admire without thinking about it. He holds doors open. He remembers birthdays. He nods while listening, offering just enough response to be considered engaged. There is nothing theatrical about him, and that is the problem. People are
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He had always thought violence was obvious. A raised voice. A slammed door. A bruise that needed explaining. That was how it was supposed to look—obvious, theatrical, easy to condemn. What he hadn’t learned, until much later, was how quiet violence could be. This was the violence that arrived without urgency. It didn’t rush. It
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I also want pigs to fly if my spouse and I have sex before this year closes! I’ve always wanted to be a believer in miracles. They say miracles happen when you least expect them, and well, I’ve been holding on to that belief for quite some time now. As we stand on the precipice
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There will be plenty of us who’ll be extra lonely this Christmas. I’m not speaking of those who are away from their loved ones, but of those of us who have our partner right beside us, yet they want nothing to do with us. Physical intimacy is off the menu, like it was last year
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We’re a married couple in our thirties, but we don’t have children. We’re not infertile, so that means our family and friends believe we’ve chosen not to have kids. It’s far from the truth. Sex just doesn’t happen. I fear it’s going to be another lonely Christmas. Last holiday season came and went without romance,
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I used to think staying made me strong. Noble, even. I believed that holding on through the cold spells and emotional silences of a relationship proved something—loyalty, resilience, moral fibre. I told myself I was committed, devoted, faithful to the end. But there’s another name for people like me, one I resisted for years: Love
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Does this make me a bad person? Yes, I know I shouldn’t do it, but I can’t not do it. My fantasy is the only thing that gets me through sex. My imagination gives me the strength to continue when reality demands something else. We see stories of sexual fantasies and, yes, some talk about
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He wakes up again with the familiar discomfort. Not the physical ache — although that’s there too — but the emotional one that sits underneath everything. His wife lies on the far edge of the mattress, facing away. Their backs rarely touch anymore. When he shifts slightly closer, she doesn’t respond. She sleeps. He stares
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Today’s episode dives into a topic that many couples find challenging – discovering your marriage is sexless. We’ll explore the three main issues associated with this situation and discuss effective strategies to address and overcome these challenges. It can be unsettling to realise that your marriage has become sexless. While some of us are still
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C-sections have soared—from about 5% of U.S. births in 1970 to over 30% today. Across the developed world, surgery is replacing natural birth. What’s behind this change, and what could it mean for future generations? Across the rich world, more babies arrive by caesarean than ever before. In the United States, nearly 1 in 3
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