The Agony of A Sexless Marriage is Real

Has your marriage become stale? Are you just going through domestic routines but looking like a happy couple to everyone else? Have you become more like friends than lovers? Are you wondering where your happy ever after went?

There’s no easy way to bring it up, so I’ll just come out and say it aloud. A sexless marriage sucks.

Yearning for skin-to-skin contact but receiving rejection each time we try to get some is soul-sucking. It’s crushing. And then there’s the guilt and self-loathing that follows… of pushing too much… of not pushing hard enough… of being stuck in a no-win cycle and having no way out, no way to fix it.

Some of us claim we were tricked into a sexless life after romps whittle away to a ‘No thanks’ or ‘Why do you pressure me all the time?’

Let’s be fair to our partners. Health issues explain some sexual declines. An illness, any illness, could excuse a couple’s sex life to falter. But there are also those couples who have no illness at all. One day, the sex is gone. Vanished. There’s no real reason to explain it.

Searches on the Internet reveal such stories. Most fall into one of two categories.

1. A Clinical Approach To Sex and Sexual Desire
2. One Partner’s Viewpoint of A Disappointing Sex Life With An Unwilling Spouse

Professionals provide clinical statistics on sex. Counsellors, Doctors, and the like will quote numbers on sexual frequency and how intimacy fluctuates. Numbers turn to words when describing how to improve a couple’s lovemaking. Communication, patience, and understanding are said to help things return to normal again.

The second half of the search list returns a more sombre message. It comes from the hidden corners of the Internet, written by those feeling anguish and disappointment. It’s raw emotion, coated with pessimism. Authors aren’t looking for answers anymore—they just want to vent their frustration.

Despite all the advice available, few articles answer the hardest question so many of us want to know: Why? Why did the marriage turn sexless in the first place?

The very next question we want answered is: How can I get back what was lost?

Due to my interest in this area, I’ve collected the latest sexless marriage content being posted to the internet and stored them in a Flipboard Magazine called Sexless Marriages.

Flipboard is an app for phones. (Computers use it, too, but it’s more of a phone thing!) You can store content in Flipboard, discover stuff, create magazines, and share them with like-minded friends. Browse my magazine or read my novel today.

May your sexless existence end soon.

-M (Author of Dark Fiction, one novel with a sexless marriage)

“Forman’s writing style is artful, with the protagonist Mitchell’s warped thought processes masterfully exposed. The author has a powerful and vivid command of language and his word pictures are stark and disturbingly real.”

– Linda J Bettenay, author of ‘Secrets Mothers Keep’ and ‘Wishes For Starlight’.