Release and Rise: Finding Freedom from Stressful Relationships

It shouldn’t be surprising this topic attracts so many. When someone speaks of ways to deal with stress and anxiety, people take notice and listen to this one.

Life without relationships is stressful. Modern life is extra stressful. We have so much knowledge and understanding to improve our lives, yet we are the most stressed-out groups of civilised people in the modern era. There are machines to do the heavy lifting we used to do, mechanisms to eliminate the repetitiveness, drugs to remove unnatural pain, and digital devices to remind us when we’re forgetful. In the last hundred years, so many conveniences have been added to our lives to free up our time, but we are still time-poor. We can’t find enough hours in our days to do everything we want to do. There is not enough life in our lives to accomplish all we want to achieve.

The desire to compress more into life the available time we have with it stresses us. It stresses us more if we can’t achieve that. Letting go goes in the opposite direction. It almost asks us to concede defeat, which few of us want to do. So we power on and demand more just to prove our worth.

Some of my blog topics miss the mark, while others hit a perfect bullseye. I posted Letting Go Is Hard But Holding On Can Be Harder, a blog about enduring long-term troubled relationships, on an old blog site of mine that’s no longer operating. (I’ve since brought it across to this one and freshened it up.)

You see, I had a long-term, troubled marriage of my own and tried so hard to let go of all the pain it caused me/us. Eventually, I let it go and found light at the end of a long, dark tunnel. I’ve written about it before, but this time, something different happened. It resonated with a large cohort on the WordPress platform, and it lasted for days.

I expected to see the usual set of stats after the posting went out — y’know, a few here and there with a couple more in the days that followed — but the numbers went through the roof! To give you an idea, a new post normally generates between 30 and 150 new visitors. This one went to 500 on day one, 800 on day two, 700 on day three and settled down to about a hundred a day for a month afterwards. It’s the highest set of stats I’ve ever seen in a single post!

It means that many people relate to the topic and seek some kind of support and understanding of what’s happening in their lives. I think many unhappy folks are stuck in relationships that they can’t get out of for some reason or another. They feel lost and alone and have no one to turn to.

Some feel bullied by their partners and are powerless to fix the situation. Their bully’s attacks leave no marks; therefore, the wounds never show, and the damage can’t be proved. We live in despair and don’t have a voice that can be heard by anyone else but ourselves. So, the blog post is about facing our inner and outer adversaries by simply setting them free.

For my own therapy, I wrote the book below.

–Michael (Author of Dark Fiction)