You have argued that society’s position on cheating is logically incoherent. Society says, on the one hand, sex is not that important, so living in a sexless marriage is not a big deal. On the other hand, society says cheating can never be justified because sex is that important, so important you shouldn’t do it with anyone else, not even if your spouse won’t do it with you.
I think you’re being unfair to society, Dan. There is no inconsistency in saying the pain caused by infidelity outweighs the pain/frustration caused by forced celibacy. The problem for the prospective cheater—or the current/former cheater trying to ease his/her conscience—is that you’re weighing your own, known pain against the unknown pain your spouse might potentially have to endure. So society really needs to know: Would the average person rather be cheated on or trapped in a sexless marriage?
This is where you might actually provide a real service. We need a survey! So what do your readers say? Which is worse? Let’s settle this question once and for all so you can get back to answering questions about parrot masturbation!
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I’m living in a sexless marriage and can tell you it is a horrible feeling. I don’t know if I would be more devastated by being cheated on or not. What I do know is 2 wrongs don’t make a right. I recommend being honest and leaving a sexless marriage if you can no longer take it. You become just as wrong as the refuser if you cheat. Get a divorce and move on. Don’t cheat.
Just my two cents.
And it’s a good two cents. There are varying reasons why so many people stay together. Not being honest or brave enough to leave is where it starts. -A
Great post 😃
Great post😀
I actually am doing some surveys. I always thought sexless marriage was an unhappy marriage until this
https://yoursexinterview.wordpress.com/2020/01/18/professional-married-mother-soccer-mom-sexless-rich-open/
Hi. Interesting story at the end of that link. Is it a true one? Did you two truly flash each other?
-M
Truly, yes.
I’ve been in a sexless marriage, married 14 years sexless for 13. I am at my wits end. No amount of talking or begging or crying has changed things. Hes much older and meds have ruined everything, he wont even touch me because since he has no libido I shouldn’t have anything. His health makes it hard to leave, not to mention he bleeds me dry and I’m unable to pay off bills to save so I don’t need the small amount of money he puts towards our home. I’m at the point of wanting to have someone to just have fun with so I can at least have some happiness.