Act of Retrospective Dominance

Revirgining a lover is our character’s goal, but how does an experienced one become a sexually inexperienced adult a second time around?

For our protagonist, revisiting that moment has become an obsession, but it’s frustrating not achieving it. The relentless yet unobtainable outcome they seek turns aggressive, with the bedroom becoming a battleground.

Inequality is often the first thing readers think of when aggressive sex appears in fiction. It’s only a short distance from that and what we understand as abuse.

Those attracted to the raunchy side of sex look past that and expect a stimulating read.

In both cases, an aggressor moves for a reason that’s not always evident. Spoiler Alert: One character enjoys the passion granted to them, while the other flirts with an internal demon.

Mitchell Felding is no psychopath. Neither is his wife, Samantha. Nina De Jong shows no tendency either, yet there is an element of disturbance between all three. There’s sexual friction, and it’s pulling the trio in different directions. Passive abuse from one relationship surreptitiously spills into another. With the scene set, readers get to peer into a world of dominant and submissive sex.

When writing SEETHINGS, I wanted to study this romantic opposition dynamic. I started the project using my own experiences. Perhaps you’ll relate.

Go back to the time of your first romantic sexual encounter. Think about the doubt, the excitement, the fear and the overwhelming emotions you felt just before crossing over. Don’t think about the intercourse, just those moments leading up to it, especially those first-time jitters. Doubts. Goals. Love. Right. Wrong. They say many things to us when we’re approaching the moment. They are exquisitely wonderful but delicately fragile, too. It’s a rush of unknown expectations and anticipations. Questions run through our minds at a thousand miles an hour.

What are we supposed to think, feel or do? What does our lover think and feel? Will it hurt? What happens afterwards? The answers can only be found by doing it.

Okay, the first time can lead to a flatter outcome than anticipated. It doesn’t always work out, and it smells funny. We made strange noises. Our expectations were high, yet the outcome was less. All the knowledge we had beforehand didn’t help.

Many say that they were rushed into sex, through it, and then abandoned too soon after it was done. It’s far from the fairytale — whatever that’s supposed to be. Nevertheless, any first-time experience is a starting point leading to many better ones (hopefully).

With practice (and a variety of lovers), sex emerges into couple-specific sex. It can be light and playful, while other encounters are intense and driven. There’s liberating sex. Sex that’s relaxing, slow, vigorous, or sleepy and soaking (and many more variants). If you and your partner are on the same page at the same time, all sex is great sex. Your sex now has a symbol.

This brings me to SEETHINGS and the aggressive sex symbol Nina and Mitchell develop.

Attempting to force Nina’s head between a gap in the mattress and the bed’s crossbar against her cries of pain reveals a familiar symbol.

During doggy sex, Mitchell pushes on and thrusts Nina’s body forward until her head enters the space. She screams as her ear crumples backwards and bleeds. The mattress lifts to clamp her neck against the bar. She’s stuck and in pain. It’s a dominating outcome, but at a second glance, it’s re-virginity. Mitchell has turned his lover’s head into a penis and forced it into a place it shouldn’t have gone. The damaged and bloodied ear signifies the other side of first-time lovemaking.

In his mind, he’s created an experience he subconsciously desired to enact. She isn’t aware of a thing or why.

First-time sex is a great writer’s muse. Many authors have wrangled with this subject many times before. Fertile young couples discovering their evolving love (and bodies) is a sweet story. The handsome boy meets a pretty girl. They suffer obstacles and fail a few times but invariably unite and blah blah forever to a perfect life. It’s nice, but it’s far more challenging to return experienced lovers to that point and look at the process again.

Yes, I get that re-viginizing a non-virgin could be done in other ways. First-time anal, first-time threesome or first-time group sex are popular alternatives, but I wanted the purest’s approach. Keeping the lovers in a sexual convention allows readers to enjoy the game being played inside the mind.

One question to be answered is: Did Mitchell achieve his goal?

Another is why an ordinarily mild-mannered, sensitive gentleman turns aggressive like this. And why is this desirable female so accommodating so many times?

I mentioned there was a thruple in the narrative, right?

Your clues have been laid out; it is an excellent start to the story found inside SEETHINGS.

–Michael