Dear Michael: My wife and I have two little kids. When we come home from work, we’re busy with them. There’s dinner, homework, baths, stories and bed. Our day planner is full.
That leaves 90 minutes or so to straighten up, do laundry and catch a little TV. By that time, my wife is exhausted, so nighttime sex is rare. Sex before work is what I call “zombie sex.”
Making dates is out of the question, and planning special weekends seems unnecessary. I know that busy people are making time for sex. I’d just like to know just how they’re doing it. — Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: Why are “dates” out? What’s wrong with planning special weekends? Why not hire a babysitter on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon to take the kids to a movie? What about getting the in-laws to take the kids for a weekend? Or trading off with another couple? In other words, what’s wrong with scheduling sex? You schedule everything else. I know it’s not spontaneous, but non-spontaneous sex is better than no sex at all, isn’t it? And some sex often leads to more sex.
Don’t let your frustration build, and don’t get into a sexless marriage. You’ll both regret it.
-M (Author of SEETHINGS, downloadable and free for a limited time)
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