Have you got a sexless marriage? Me too. Many people are sharing their feelings about their sexless marriages on this podcast.
In the last update, I mentioned Apple and Google latching onto my show and re-broadcasting it through their platforms. Well, it’s now raining listeners. It’s still early days, but the audience has increased and grown daily.
I now know Apple attracts the most listeners, and the podcast mostly interests people between 35 and 60 years of age. The two primary sexes are split almost down the middle. (Some might find that offensive, but I don’t make the stats, just report them). In addition, I can inform you that 20% are of an unspecified sexual type. None are non-binary.
For those arriving late to the party, The Dirty Rabbit Hole Podcast is about people experiencing relationships with little or no physical intimacy (connected to my novel’s narratives). Coping with a sexless marriage (or relationship) is not easy, and there are few answers out there or places where sufferers can go for support.
The Rabbit Hole refers to the mindset sufferers find themselves in after realising they’re in a place they didn’t want to be. The Dirt comes from the search for the sometimes filthy truths associated with living in a sexless marriage and then having to look for answers alone.
Some of the key outcomes are (or will soon become):
1. Acknowledge that a problem in the marriage exists.
2. Accept that the problem won’t vanish by simply loving someone more or by wishing (praying would be the same) for sexlessness to leave the relationship
3. Stop the self-blame and self-loathing game. The spouse has a genuine issue with sex.
4. Know something new has to be done to resolve the problem
5. Happy ever-afters are highly subjective and can have flexible outcomes.
6. Actioning change.
Living like this and having to make dirty decisions (or accept life being as it is, forever) on behalf of your sex life isn’t nice. It’s always just a bit icky.
I won’t go into everything here except to say that everyone has a different way of dealing with it. Some live in despair, others have affairs, take up hobbies or sports, and I wrote a well-selling book based on one particular sexless marriage (totally fiction, of course, to protect the guilty). Listen to the podcast and then read the book. You’ll see what I mean.
That’s all, see you next time. -M
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