Dear Thelma,
I have been married for a year. It was a love match. My husband and I love each other, but to date, he has not consummated our marriage. He does not initiate intimacy, and when I am in a romantic mood, he will push me away, saying he is sleepy or tired. He shows absolutely no interest in sex.
I try to console myself by telling myself that sex is not the most important thing in a marriage. But sometimes I feel worried, stressed and sad over this issue. We are a young couple, yet we do not have a normal sex life. Do you have any advice for me? – Miss X
Dear Miss X,
There can be many reasons for which people are not interested in sex. Whatever it is, the only way to deal with the situation is to confront it directly with your hubby and discuss possible solutions together.
This is a delicate matter to raise in a relationship, and it is very important to be tactful. Before you even broach the subject with your hubby, there are a few things you have to come to terms with. Sex is not love, and neither is it a sign of love. It is something that happens consensually between two people who are in a relationship. So, just because your husband is not having sexual relations with you, it does not mean that he does not love you or care for you.
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I feel sad hearing this…I understand your feelings
Sorry, i disagree with the advice.
Even tho sex and love sometimes doesn’t come together if one person is feeling neglected it is valid to raise eyebrows and even to leave.
1 year and things are like this when this should be a honeymoon period ?
For sure it bothers her so i would definitely leave or she will be miserable forever.