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A New Black In Erotic Fiction

Vanilla eroticism is known for its predictable plots. Romantics call them happy-ever-afters. Someone’s manly chest meets someone else’s perfect skin and only the names change from story to story. The outcomes are expected. Clichés are guaranteed. Couples find their right type of Utopia by The End. Nice. While some readers love the comfort of inevitability, …

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Dark Adult Fiction. Character Spotlight: Super-Organised Samantha Felding.

Sam is a highly trustworthy, dependable woman — personable to all who encounter her. She’s a loyal friend, supportive sister and model daughter to her parents. Her work ethic is focused and flawless. She is also asexual. Samantha Felding. Thirty-something Married to Mitchell Felding (10 years.) High School Educator Self – Motivated High Achiever Dedicated …

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Priests Aren’t Qualified To Be Sex Counsellors.

And the response I got after making that outrageous statement was: “A doctor doesn’t have to experience pain to understand pain. A Priest doesn’t have to have sex to counsel people about sex.” My Catholic responder snapped back her reply. In fact, it was so succint that it sounded like it was the kind of …

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This Affair Is My Secret. Please Don’t Tell Anyone What I’m About To Tell You.

I can’t say it to anyone in my circle of friends but I can tell my secret to a stranger like you. Yes, for all you know, I could be your closest friend or a work colleague or neither of them — the name I’m using here could be totally different from the one I …

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Sex? Not This Year, Darling.

Is your sexless marriage getting you down? Can’t remember the last time you two did the wild thing? Are you one of the silent-but-angry majority who curses each frustratingly difficult day that passes by without a little horizontal tango? You need to hang around here for a while. You’re my audience. If this nasty routine …

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Books About Sexless Marriages. Where Are They?

A sexless marriage can feel extra lonely for a second reason. If you’re not the type to whine about not getting laid, you’re probably keeping the emotion from it to yourself and it’s been building. That means the frustration you feel is multiplied. And now, you’re doing research on books about sexless marriages to find …

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How To Avoid Writing Cardboard Cut Out Characters Into Fiction

Writers need to know that their characters have to be accessible to readers, and easily relatable. Sure, make them fly and breathe fire if you must, but also show us their vulnerabilities. We want to believe they are more like us than we are prepared to admit. It makes us want to get to know them more because it reminds us of our own foibles.

My Spouse Is Asexual. What Should I do About My Own Needs?

I’m desperate. If anyone knows what to do about ending the sexless cycle in a four-year-long marriage, then I’m all ears (eyes, if you’re writing a reply). I’ve tried everything and I’m lost at what to do next. Before you suggest counselling, we’ve done (still doing) it. If you’re keen to put forward the idea …

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Breaking Up Could Be The Best Thing I’ll Ever Do

A fairy-tale is coming to an end. I can feel it. I say I love you, but something’s wrong. It doesn’t feel right. If I had to describe it accurately, parts of this relationship have become a horror story. I mean, we’ve worked on fixing the problems — tried so very hard to make things …

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